Ok, So You're Doing Well...So What!!

I'm starting to see why people say, "it's lonely at the top". And the sad part is, I'm nowhere near the top! I noticed that as soon as I started doing positive things with my life, I accrued some haters! To make matters worse, these are some of the people who I THOUGHT would be in my corner. I mean these are people who know my struggle. Who know most of what I've been through. You would THINK they would be happy for me. I guess most people are only happy for you as long as you are in the same situation as they are, or worse. As soon as your situation gets better, or theirs gets better, the relationship strains until it becomes nonexistent. When you start to focus on your goals, there are going to be things you have to cut out of your life in order to do that. Sometimes it's something as frivolous as our leisure activities. And sometimes it's something as precious as a old friendship. Of course we would all like to sit on the couch, drink, smoke, and play video games with our friends, while amassing a fortune. There's only one thing wrong with that dream...IT AIN'T GONNA FUCK'N HAPPEN! The more you sit on your ass, the further you get away from your goal. Goals are targets...that MOVE! What's easy now, wasn't as easy ten years ago. And ten years from now, the same will reign true. I've said all that to say, don't go expecting a fucking party when you start doing well. Don't expect the majority of your "friends" and family to give a fuck. History has proven many things..and one is that, nobody cares, until you're rich. So while many will smile in your face, while having internal discomfort at the thought of your success, just know they are really thinking "So What!". They don't want to hear about your success...ESPECIALLY if they aren't having any. As sad as it may sound, I have learned that success is a dish best served, never. Keep your success to yourself. You'll have a small circle of people are genuinely happy for you, but even they will get tired of you expressing things and it will began to look like you're gloating. Nobody likes a show-off...so the next time you're around people who you THINK are your friends and you want to share how good things have been going in your life, do yourself a favor and shut the fuck up about it.

How Real is the Thirst?

I've noticed a disturbing trend amongst the social media sites. It's a term being coined as "thirsty". Not really sure where this new phrase spawned from, nor do I care much about who was responsible for the boatload of nonsense stemming from it. While the concept of the phrase is pretty simple to understand, it's true value to society is confusing. As I understand it, being "thirsty" is wanting or lusting after someone, often with persistence that may be perceived by that someone, or by others, as too much. I guess there's a fine line between being interested and being "thirsty'. Of course uninvitedly messaging a person everyday, multiple times a day, would be overkill. However, I'm noticing people clearly blowing things out of proportion. A person sends them two messages, or likes a few pictures, and all of a sudden, they're "thirsty". I mean it's Instagram, the whole basis of the damn site is for people to enjoy the pictures and interact! Whatever happened to showing a genuine interest in someone? What's wrong with persistence, as long as it's not disrespectful, or to the tune of psychotic behavior? I see the term often used towards guys. There are tons of beautiful women in the world, and it seems as though every one of them has a social media account. I understand your page is YOUR business, but if you are putting up half naked pictures of yourself in the mirror, you can't expect it to go ignored by all the perverts. I am by no means condoning the derogatory remarks or gestures you receive on a daily basis, but you must understand that this is just "the cost of doing business". I mean you DO want to be admired, don't you? Why else would you post a picture half naked, in the mirror, with your ass cheek on the sink while making "duck lips"? I know you women wish all the perverts couldn't get a social media account, but then again, how else could you get 1,000 likes on your low clarity homemade photoshoot? And guys aren't exempt either...they are taking pics in the bathroom as well smh. I don't care how many abs or biceps you have, when you have your shirt off taking a picture in the mirror, YOU DO NOT LOOK COOL! Of course you will get some likes and maybe even a few private messages from some "thirsty" women, but the quality women are going to say to themselves, "look at THIS clown". I know you've worked hard on your body and you like to show it off, but that's better done in person. Some things just have a better effect in person than it does online, and that my friend, is one of them. The whole "thirsty" thing is funny to me. People are provoking a certain type of response and then are turning right around and criticizing those who give them that response. And for the record, there are plenty of people who may appear "thirsty" by these twisted cyber standards, but are just genuinely interested in getting to know you. But life is so ironic; people who SAY they want true companionship will bypass a person who seems "thirsty," when all they really value is a little time and attention. Ultimately they'll substitute a "thirsty" person for a person who could give two fucks about them, just so long as they look the part of happiness. Maybe I'll just never understand.